We often compare ourselves to others. People are unique. All the complex factors that make up a life means we all have a unique existence. Many people look to others to validate their existence, and then feel down on themselves when they don’t get the validation they desire.
The thing is you probably are already awesome. If someone does not call you back, go and do something fun. If someone does not reply to a text, that is their loss. If you have done something major with your life that makes you happy – then take that victory and own it. If others cannot accept your happiness, cut them loose.
I just want to say, it is ok to do things for yourself. Lets face it, people are going to talk about you whether you like it or not. Let them – they ultimately cannot degrade your happiness.
I know this from personal experience. I cut loose a former best friend who became nasty, homophobic, and judgemental when I made changes in my life that made me happy. She thought I should seek her approval, but it doesn’t work like that in life. I stuck with the things that make me happy and cut loose those who couldn’t handle it. Ultimately, I found my awesome and I am content that I did.
You really don’t need to compete against anyone else in life to be awesome. I’ve recently reset many of my goals and resolutions. I last had a major goal setting exercise on 27 December 2020, and I figured it was time for a refresh. I’ve scrapped my previous exercise goal and gone with something more straight forward: enjoyment and intensity. I’m going to keep focused on building and maintaining intensity and keep it fun.
I found myself pushing too much on time/distance, and then feeling a degree of disappointment if I looked at what others had I achieved. Yet really, I am already doing awesome things just for myself. I do not need to compete to achieve what I want. So, I am not going to!
Remember, I never offer or talk bout a one size fits all approach for wellbeing, this is where I am at right now. Some people like competition, and if that works for you in a positive way – fantastic 🙂
I’m doing life my own way, in a way that makes me happy.