There is one universal truth in life that never stops: change.

Yet, for many of us, change is remarkably difficult to deal with. Some people seem to thrive on it, but our brains are actually wired to see change as a negative. It’s called the negativity bias. Even when a shift is positive, our default setting is to scan for the risks. 

Finding the positive in change takes real effort. And here is a confession: even when I teach and write about mindset, I still find it difficult. Right now, I am facing significant changes at work and upcoming medical treatments. It can be scary. But finding the opportunity hidden inside the disruption is vital.

If you are finding change hard to deal with right now, here is a method that helps me: stop, reflect, and ground yourself.

I look closely at what isn’t changing. Usually, you will find that not everything in life is shifting at once. Even with big career and health changes on my mind, the core of my routine remains intact:

• My exercise program continues.
• My video gaming continues.
• My writing continues.
• My ability to go on holiday continues.

These are big things. More importantly, they are things that bring me joy—and they aren’t going anywhere. 

A job coming to an end can feel daunting, but it also opens the door to new experiences and fresh opportunities. Change forces us out of our comfort zone, encourages self-exploration, and reminds us of what truly matters. 

Change is scary, but it can also be deeply exciting. Developing the skill to spot the opportunity within the shift is one of the best ways to cultivate real gratitude in your life. 

What big change are you navigating right now, and what anchor is keeping you steady?

Reflect and focus on that anchor.