You might be dealing with a social vampire- not the kind that drinks blood, but the kind that drains your energy like your phone on 1% with 12 apps open.

These people aren’t always obvious. They might constantly vent, dominate every conversation or throw in those sneaky backhanded compliments that leave you second guessing yourself. According to psychologists, the biggest red flag? How you feel after spending time with them.

If you’re walking away feeling emotionally zapped, its not just you- and its not in your head. Here are three ways to spot and handle these energy-zappers before they drain your vibe.