It feels great when someone else validates your feelings — but relying too much on other people’s opinions can leave you feeling insecure and down on yourself. Deep down, you know this, but it bears repeating: internal validation is the key to confidence.

While external validation can be uplifting, it’s crucial not to depend on it entirely. Over-reliance on others’ opinions can undermine your self-esteem and make you feel less secure. Instead, fostering internal validation helps build a solid foundation of self-confidence that isn’t easily shaken by external factors.

Of course, being your own hype person is easier said than done. One effective strategy is to talk to yourself the way you’d speak to a close friend. This approach can help you cultivate a kinder, more supportive inner dialogue.

Here are some phrases to try:

• I’m doing my best and that’s enough. Remind yourself that your efforts are valuable, regardless of the outcome.
• This is hard. I’m proud of myself for hanging in there. Acknowledge the challenges you face and give yourself credit for persevering.
• Everyone makes mistakes. I can try again tomorrow. Accept that mistakes are a natural part of life and an opportunity for growth.

While external validation is nice, you don’t need it to feel good about yourself. By practicing internal validation and positive self-talk, you can build a resilient sense of confidence that comes from within. Remember, you have the power to be your own biggest supporter.