Christmas day is just over two weeks away, and its becoming very dominant in our lives in the lead up to this day, whether you celebrate it or not, Christmas is now everywhere in the UK.

I want to touch on a (often forgotten) point that not everyone celebrates Christmas. Many cultures and beliefs do not celebrate Christmas, yet it does feel in this country that many people are forced to “feel happy” at Christmas and become involved in the celebrations, regardless of their own beliefs or circumstances. This might seem a controversial point to touch on, I accept that. I just would like everyone to keep in mind, not everyone celebrates Christmas, but some who do not celebrate Christmas may not feel comfortable talking about it openly either.

There are those who also do not find Christmas to be a time of happiness of celebration. It can be a horrendous time. Its important that we do approach people with compassion and not make assumptions (that is important for inclusion and wellbeing generally).

I personally, do not celebrate Christmas, nor do I enjoy it, but I feel like I have to put on a pleasant, pro-Christmas face for everyone else. In late 2017, I was very ill – without going into details – it was serious. Whilst recovering, my dad passed away very suddenly, early in the new year.  I do not celebrate Christmas, for me it’s a time of hurt and darkness. I get told to either just “get in the spirit” or “be happy” every year. I wish it was that easy. I do not celebrate Christmas as I do not feel I wish to. Sadly, Christmas is forced up on me every year. To me, its being forced to get through it, when for many people it can be the loneliest time of year.

In my view, the festive period can be one of the least inclusive times of the year. I share my own story to raise awareness and ask you to be considerate of others, not everyone can get in the spirit of Christmas.

I just want to end this post by reminding you, it is ok not to be ok.

Support resources are available throughout. Please do not suffer in silence.

Support Resources

In an emergency – where a live is at risk, even with mental health, call 999

Mind

0300 123 3393

Helpline available

mind.org.uk

shout 85258

Text SHOUT to 085258

giveusashout.org

SAMARITANS

116 123

24/7 helpline

samaritans.org

Email: jo@samaritans.org

YOUNG MINDS

Text YM to 85258

24/ 7 text service

youngminds.org.uk

CALM (The Campaign against living miserably)

0800 58 58 58

Helpline for men

thecalmzone.net

PAPYRUS

0800 068 4141

Under 35s Helpline

Papyrus-uk.org

IDONTMIND

www.idontmind.com or @idontmind on Instagram

Andy’s Man Club

In person support groups for men – run at a local level

Andy’s Man Club | #ITSOKAYTOTALK | Andy’s Man Club (andysmanclub.co.uk)

Action for Happiness

• Free training courses
• Daily actions app
• Support for happiness groups

https://actionforhappiness.org/

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